This time of year I always get a rush of calls from people wanting to make changes in their lives. They often want my help with things they’ve been trying to change for years, without success.
Most people rely on willpower to try to enforce their New Year resolutions, and are understandably frustrated when they can’t make the changes they so dearly want.
This lovely email arrived today from a 45 year old woman in Islington – let’s call her Sarah – who had 4 sessions with me a year ago. She’s kindly agreed to let me post it here on my blog.
“Brilliant!!! I just got back from a family Christmas, having kept my cool for the first time ever! My brother isn’t a nice man – he’s hugely judgmental of everyone and always expecting to be first/right/preferred/admired. I always try to be pleasant but would always being the one ending up in the ‘wrong’ by getting upset. I just couldn’t stop myself being provoked (it felt like he would keep going until it worked) no matter how hard I tried. Even reading a book that showed me all bullies have low self worth underneath didn’t stop me losing it, year after year…
This Christmas I was determined for it to be different, and the sessions we did together had really changed things for me, so I was very hopeful. I dug out the hypnosis recording you gave me and listened for a few weeks beforehand so I would feel extra strong – and it worked! I remained calm, rational, and strong – all his nastiness couldn’t touch me, it just slid off… – what an amazing feeling!!!
So I’m now looking forward to enjoying life even more in 2014. Thank you again so much! Sarah”
What Sarah is describing here is the classic battle between thoughts and feelings. We can be as logical as we want about something, but when strong feelings come up, they usually win. That’s why I work with hypnosis, as its a system that gets to the underlying, emotional issues, which once resoved allow us to apply our willpower and succeed.
Wishing you a happy, peaceful, and wonderful 2014.
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